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Hello -

I need some support and encouragement. I am trying to get pregnant - this is something I have always worried about...having trouble getting pregnant or not being able to. All my life I have had irregular periods - and last year when my husband and I started to try for a baby - I basically went into extreme anxiety and depression mode because I was scared of having trouble. At that time – I decided to go through this program and went back on Paxil. Well this past winter I went off the Paxil and I have been doing great! My OBGYN doctor put me on Chlomid to regulate my menstrual cycle and it has, but after 3 months on this I am not pregnant. This is my fourth month to try and then they are going to run tests on me. My husband did a semen analysis and he is fine. This month the doctor also wanted me to do an ovulation kit to see if I was ovulating...and to my surprise and excitement - I did ovulate, which I see as a good sign (because I was concerned about this). Anyways according to the test - my two most fertile days were this past Tuesday and Wednesday. Well my husband and I had intercourse on Tuesday, but on Wednesday - when we tried - it was so late and for some reason we couldn't do it - I think it was because of the pressure that that was the day and it was late! Also, I guess it took the spontaneity out of it – because we knew we had to do it. Anyways - after we tried and were not successful - I laid awake all night - worrying that I blew this month because we didn't do it the second day and then I worried that I wasn't getting enough sleep. I only got two hours of sleep last night because of my worrying - I kept thinking I blew it not only because we didn't do it the 2nd day, but also because one of my most fertile days was on Wednesday - when I got no sleep...and in my mind - I think that in order to get pregnant - I need to be relaxed and well rested. Now today - I feel so bad because I am tired and sick to my stomach and I feel bad because I kept my husband awake all night - and I know he is frustrated that I worry so much. He just wants me to relax, but I am worried that my lack of sleeping could have a result on getting pregnant.

I just feel like I blow my chances every month....I just want a baby sooo bad and so does my husband. (And everyone around me has a baby or is getting pregnant, which makes it harder.) We have only been on the chlomid for 4 months, but we have been wanting a baby for over a year or more. (We started trying last summer, but stopped while I went through the program and went back on medicine for some time. I then slowly got off my medicine and then we started actively trying this past winter/spring.)

Does anyone have any advice or encouraging words? I could use some now. Thanks, Kerrie

bme i was in your shoes along time ago i was told thought i would never had children when i stopped putting so much emphasis on getting pregnant i became pregnant i haave 2 girls now adults it took awhile to get pregnant though try not to think of it so much i know it is hard but it helps good luck keep me posted

Yeah everyone says when you stop worrying it's when it happens. My ob/gyn said to have sex every other day for full semen strength and to have sex BEFORE you ovulate. There are various programs on the internet that would help you plan this. I know one offers like 3 months for free. RELAX!! Try to do romantic little things with your husband if you can afford it like a weeked away and that might help too.

Thanks for your feedback....I really appreciate it. It is just hard to relax and not worry/think about it - when that's what I want more than anything and I feel like everything is so timed....like when to have intercourse, etc. I just get scared because I put so much pressure on myself and feel like I am messing everything up because I am not perfectly relaxed and I stress and worry. It's just hard and I want it so bad!