Stress Center Peer Support

Hi everyone,

I just started the program yesterday for the second time. I bought and recieved the program back in May of this year.

I am basically at my wits end with this anxiety Bull crap. I have three children and a beautiful wife, home and well from what people tell me a pretty darn good life. I wish I could see it that way. I try to think of them when I'm having one of my moments and I feel kind of happy and yet I'm really not.

I just want to be happy. I really don't remember when or even if there was a time thatI was truly happy. This is when the crying comes into play. The last month or so I just feel like crying and sometimes do. I never cry in front of anyone but I'm almost thinking about just doing it and seeing how it makes me feel. Who knows maybe it will make me feel somewhat better. Can anyone give me any ideas about this whole crying thing? I'm not very familiar with crying, most of my life if something bad happened where any normal person would cry I would just sit there in a trance and just take it all in. I almost think I should have cried to let it out. I just couldn't. Like my brother in law said onetime, my tear ducts are broke. LOL. Well not anymore, that's all I feel like I want to do. I am getting to the point where I don't know how much my mind and body can take of this. I am 29 and I have had this anxiety / depression since I was about about about oh I don't even know for sure whenit started but I do know that it has been since I was a kid. ENOUGH is ENOUGH. Please help I'm in need of lots of help. thanks

Hi there,

First of all, please know that you are not alone in this. You sound just like me about 1 year ago. I finally just hit the point where I said something has got to give. Please stick with this program and do it at YOUR OWN pace. Dont worry if it takes you much longer. Like I said, I have been doing this a year and it literally has helped change my life. My anxiety is decreased dramatically. As for the crying, let it out. The worst thing you can do is hold in emotion that is that powerful. Believe me I have had many episodes where I sit on the end of the bed and just breakdown, sometimes for no reason. It is such a release that you will find yourself feeling much better. I have been in the grocery store and felt the need to cry. Of course I dont but I eventually let it all out when I am alone. There is nothing wrong with crying in front of people either. I know where you are in this, I have felt it, lived it, and have gotten better. So stick with the program no matter what and let out your emotions! Good luck! There is hope for you and you can get better.

Hi SNC:
I am sorry you are feeling so bad.
First of all, do continue with the program.

You say you have much to be thankful for and I believe you.

I was in group therapy once and was told that Happiness is A choice. And you know? It really is.
There is a book with that title: HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE. It was written by two psychiatrist in Dallas. (They were in Dallas at the thime).

I think it might help you to raad that.

While you are workig the program you might want to make out a list os the many blessings you have. You are already aware of some of the most important ones.

I pray you are feeling better soon.
God bless!
MJ

Just let it out! Holding it in just makes it worse. I actually cried in front of co workers the other day and they were actually very supportive even when I told them it was anxiety! You would be surprised on how many people suffer from this. The more you talk the better you will feel. Good luck and stick to the program I am having to do the program again and believe me I am sick of ANXIETY too! But you must remember this too shall pass. Good luck!

I came back a 2nd time. Must be I'm meant to post. I want to say I agree. Let it out!! Let the tears flow. God made you human. He didn't make you a bottle so why bottle it up??? I have that crying feeling lots of times for no reason. I've now accepted it's maybe my hormones or what I really don't know. Sometimes I've woke up at 2 or 3am and want to cry or scream for who knows why. At those times I've learned I need my anxiety med. It's OK to take it. I take the lowest dose of xanax. I've taken it probably 12 yrs. or more but only as needed which I noticed the last script lasted 6 mo. and my husband even took some at times. Maybe check with your Dr. Medicine is meant to help us in moderation or till we're able to help ourselves. Work the program, come here AND count your blessings. You have many!!

Besides, the book Cornflower mentioned, I had at one time. I must have given it away. Actually I was angry and depressed and thought, "It is NOT a choice." Truth is, yes it is a choice. Choose to do the right thing and if be letting tears fall, so be it. You will be a better man because of it. Hope this helped.

Barb

Hi SNC,
You have been given some excellent advice here!!! Please do not hold all of those emotions in!!! Let them out or they will make you sick!!!

My brother has a shirt which says...Real Men are Not Afraid to Cry...BTW: He is a minister!!!

Here is a video which I think would be of much help to you!!! If you choose to watch it alone, then, that is your choice!!! I do believe this video will help you to let those emotions out!!!

We live in such a strange society!!! Men have feelings, just as women do!!! Why does society say that it is not manly to cry??? That is total nonsense!!! Real men are not afraid to cry...Period...

Here is the video!!! I pray this video helps you beyond human understanding!!! God Bless You Tonight and Always is My Prayer for You!!!

Enjoy... You Raise Me Up!!!

I know the feeling I am 63 and I have had this disaster of a life.Depressed, anxious crying to much presure, when does it end. I started the program on Monday and I feel worse, proberly because everything is commming out in the open. I am on meds for many years And I am tired of them. I am also Moving to Florida, the Pressure is killing me. I should be happy. Maybe when I get there. Talk to you soon, Richie
So you are not alone, I cry alot too, my poor dog must be tired of hearing me. He always comes and licks my face.<A HREF="mailto:buttons321@gmail.com">buttons321@gmail.com</A>

Ha!! ebony my doggie, my wonderful doggie Rosco licks my face too! Aren't pets wonderful. I sit here with my coat on while he waits to go for a walk. I think he's getting sick of this computer too. You will be fine in FL as long as your doggie is with you. Everything will be fine. Keep coming on the forums and do your homework \

My mom just went to her other home in FL and she says it's so hot. By the time you get there it probably will be really nice. Be blessed!!

Barb, That is what we named our little wiener dog...He acted like a little rascal, so, I would call him little rascal and somehow it got all turned around and now, we call him Rosco!!! We got him when he was one month old, now, he is 3 months old and he is our baby