New Relationship
Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2011 9:02 am
HI All,
First time posting but I think the program is really helping me. I've had a anxiety/depression issue almost all my life but did not address until my divorce last year. I'm finally getting the help I need. In any case I'm posting b/c I met the this wonderful woman who has been extremely patient with me - we have been dating on/off for about 8 months. I have been separated for 2 years and the divorce was traumatic but deep down I knew that we were not meant to be with each other. We didn't truly love each other. We share a daughter and have been amicable with our situation. I have gone through my emotions but am very anxious about committing to a new person even though I find her and her company wonderful. I didn't expect to connect with someone so soon so deeply. I have been with and dated a few other people after the divorce but this current woman is someone who I can possibly see myself with. I fear that I am letting my fear get the best of me when I get too close emotionally. I also think that I have to be in this better/perfect place to be with her. Is this my perfectionist thing, am I being too hard on myself, am I really ready? But when I am with her everything is great. In any case, she is taking a sabbatical from her consulting job which has been extremely stressful for her and I asked her to take it here (she lives in Chicago and I live in Pittsburgh) so that I can help point her in the right directions with good healthcare providers etc.. I am having anxiety and sleeping issues -- waking every 2 hours thinking about her being here. I wonder if I can be a boyfriend to her. I am having lots of what if scenarios. Sometimes I feel very calm about the situation but if I think about it too much I get very anxious and want to recant my offer. I have prayed about it and asked God/Divine will to guide my actions and give me guidance. From what I receive it tells me to move forward but why do I have so much anxiety about it? I have already freaked out on her 2x and I am sure a 3rd time will really devastate her. Is this normal to have this kind of anxiety?
First time posting but I think the program is really helping me. I've had a anxiety/depression issue almost all my life but did not address until my divorce last year. I'm finally getting the help I need. In any case I'm posting b/c I met the this wonderful woman who has been extremely patient with me - we have been dating on/off for about 8 months. I have been separated for 2 years and the divorce was traumatic but deep down I knew that we were not meant to be with each other. We didn't truly love each other. We share a daughter and have been amicable with our situation. I have gone through my emotions but am very anxious about committing to a new person even though I find her and her company wonderful. I didn't expect to connect with someone so soon so deeply. I have been with and dated a few other people after the divorce but this current woman is someone who I can possibly see myself with. I fear that I am letting my fear get the best of me when I get too close emotionally. I also think that I have to be in this better/perfect place to be with her. Is this my perfectionist thing, am I being too hard on myself, am I really ready? But when I am with her everything is great. In any case, she is taking a sabbatical from her consulting job which has been extremely stressful for her and I asked her to take it here (she lives in Chicago and I live in Pittsburgh) so that I can help point her in the right directions with good healthcare providers etc.. I am having anxiety and sleeping issues -- waking every 2 hours thinking about her being here. I wonder if I can be a boyfriend to her. I am having lots of what if scenarios. Sometimes I feel very calm about the situation but if I think about it too much I get very anxious and want to recant my offer. I have prayed about it and asked God/Divine will to guide my actions and give me guidance. From what I receive it tells me to move forward but why do I have so much anxiety about it? I have already freaked out on her 2x and I am sure a 3rd time will really devastate her. Is this normal to have this kind of anxiety?