Just need support

Lambert · Post by **Lambert** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 2:38 pm

Hi all,

I was doing really well for awhile but for the last week or so haven't been doing as well.I haven't been exercising as diligently as I was so I know I can probably attribute some of the increased anxiety/depression to that.

I was also with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and broke up with him 2 months ago.When we were dating I was having doubts about him for about a year and finally got sick of my ignoring the little voice inside my head and broke up with him.I felt like I could not be myself around him and I also felt that he was not being himself either - that he had changed too.Also, recognizing that I was severley depressed I felt like my top priority in life needs to be getting better!!! However, lately I have been feeling lonely and regretful for breaking up with him.I am not sure if this is natural and I am just grieving the loss or if this is my anxiety talking.

I also am having difficulties at work - getting things done and making decisions.Instead of making decisions I am more likely to ask someone else their opinion first.

I DO have faith in this program and I DO have faith I am going to get better.I have an excellent family and a couple of close friends I can divulge my insecurities to.Does anyone have any advice for what I can do to regain the momentum I had with the program?

I am going to start exercising again and I was thinking about joining an anxiety support group in my neighborhood.

Thanks for your support,

Angela

aim1974 · Post by **aim1974** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 2:55 pm

Well it sounds to me like you are a very smart person! I think it is very normal to have these feelings after being with someone for 3 years. There will always be a little part that will miss him and care for him but I think you made the right decision. Keep going strong! Its also normal to get down sometimes everyone does. Just hang in there EVERYTHING PASSES WITH TIME!

Mom of 6 · Post by **Mom of 6** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 2:56 pm

Hello,
I too have lost some momentum. I just finished #4. I had a really good week last week. Several things hit me over the weekend and I am having some anxiety again., I think the best thing to do is just to regroup , review, and get to work. I am so thankful for this program. God bless. Jen

derfy · Post by **derfy** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 3:40 pm

Hi Everyone, I too am feeling "stuck" right now. I seemed to be doing quite well but am now on session 9 and just seem to be stuck here. No motivation. Also, the feelings of intense depression have hit me again, it really is a terrible feeling and you feel you'll never feel better again. I really don't want to live feeling like this. How do I get over this "bump"? Any thoughts out there? Thanks.
Joy

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 4:35 pm

Hi Joy, have you tried writing down your thoughts and trying to find out what they mean on paper? I know Lucinda says that a lot on the tapes, but it really is true. It really helped me when I was in a depression after I was separated. Let me know if this helps.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 28, 2008 12:11 pm

Thank you for your responses and thank you for telling me I sound like a smart person - people with anxiety benefit from compliments like this as sometimes we are forgetful and do not tell ourselves! I have chosen to be proud of every moment, every day I get through - as these are signs I am surviving and getting through this difficult time!

Joy, sometimes it helps me to become action-oriented. I struggle more with depression than anxiety and I'm not sure if you are the same.Working out, cleaning my house, running errands.I know this is much easier said than done and I struggle with the motivation to become action-oriented too! I also think it is probably natural to lose momentum at some time in the program, I've read many a posts with people outlining the very same problem! Joy - you are doing Great - I've read so many of your posts and you are an inspiration! Don't give up - I KNOW You can do it.

If you need to private message me, please do - I would love to hear from you.

Angela