Anxiety about Relationships
Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2014 8:32 pm
Hi all,
3 months ago I abruptly broke up with my girlfriend because she wanted to take things to the next level. We dated for 1 year. I've always had a fear of commitment, intimacy, sex, etc. I also find it extremely hard to say the words "I love you", and feel as if my anxiety prevents me from fully feeling love.
Anyway, to have found myself in a 1+ year relationship was a great accomplishment for me. Unfortunately, it wasn't enough - because eventually, a relationship has to grow and there was only so far I could go. Mind you, this was my first real serious adult relationship. I am 33 years old.
My fear is that I will never fall in love, or be in a relationship again (they seem very ill-fitting to me), etc. Just thinking about the topic gives me anxiety and I tend to think way into the future when maybe I shouldn't. I want to have a family one day but don't know how to get there. I put a lot of pressure on myself. I miss my ex too and feel guilt for what I did. I don't want to keep running from love. Advice? This is all I obsess about.
3 months ago I abruptly broke up with my girlfriend because she wanted to take things to the next level. We dated for 1 year. I've always had a fear of commitment, intimacy, sex, etc. I also find it extremely hard to say the words "I love you", and feel as if my anxiety prevents me from fully feeling love.
Anyway, to have found myself in a 1+ year relationship was a great accomplishment for me. Unfortunately, it wasn't enough - because eventually, a relationship has to grow and there was only so far I could go. Mind you, this was my first real serious adult relationship. I am 33 years old.
My fear is that I will never fall in love, or be in a relationship again (they seem very ill-fitting to me), etc. Just thinking about the topic gives me anxiety and I tend to think way into the future when maybe I shouldn't. I want to have a family one day but don't know how to get there. I put a lot of pressure on myself. I miss my ex too and feel guilt for what I did. I don't want to keep running from love. Advice? This is all I obsess about.