Healthy Boundaries

Respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself; your feelings, concerns, and opinions and ask for what you want. Also, learn how to say “no” without feeling guilty
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LyndaLu
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Healthy Boundaries

Post by LyndaLu » Tue Jan 21, 2014 6:38 pm

Hello All:

I thought the subject of Healthy Boundaries might be appropriate for this section.
In order to implement those Healthy Boundaries we must have Assertive Behavior.
Being assertive means getting your needs met. It does not mean that you are
being "pushy". There is a difference between Aggressive and Assertive.
When we are assertive , as this section says, we GAIN RESPECT.

What Are Boundaries......

A boundary is a limit or edge that defines me as separate from another.
It promotes integrity. It is culturally determined. It can be learned from family interaction.

Boundaries are physical, emotional ( mental ), and spiritual limits that define you as separate
from another person. A physical boundary is a "bubble" that separates you from others and
them from you.

An emotional boundary is your set of feelings, reactions and perceptions that make you
uniquely "YOU".

Your spiritual boundary is your set of beliefs in the world and a higher power.

Healthy boundaries allow us to choose what to let in and what to keep out.
Personal boundaries are established to protect ourselves and others from
being manipulated, used, or violated. They allow us to separate who we are
and what we think and feel from the thoughts and feelings of others.
Likewise, they keep us from violating other's boundaries by helping us
be aware of the other. The presence of healthy boundaries helps us express
ourselves as unique individuals, while we acknowledge the same in others.

What healthy boundaries do.....

* Boundaries help define our sense of SELF.
* Boundaries protect us.
* Boundaries put us in charge of our own lives.
* Boundaries promote healthy relationships.
* Boundaries contain us from violating someone else's limits.

LyndaLu

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Re: Healthy Boundaries

Post by LyndaLu » Sat Jan 25, 2014 5:05 pm

Healthy Personal Boundaries

* You know who you are and treat yourself and others with respect.


* If you have healthy boundaries you may...

--feel free to say "Yes" or "No" without guilt, fear or anger.
--refuse to tolerate abuse or disrespect.
--know when a problem is yours or another person's.
--refuse to take on other's problems.
--have a strong sense of Self/Identity.
--respect yourself.
--share responsibility with others and expect reciprocity ( equality ) in relationships.
--feel freedom, security, peace, joy and confidence.

LyndaLu
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Re: Healthy Boundaries

Post by LyndaLu » Sat Jan 25, 2014 5:11 pm

Here is one more ......

Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship


* The goal in a relationship is to feel calm, centered, and focused.
* Closeness needs to be safe, supportive, respectful, non-punitive, and peaceful.
* One feels equal and part of something.
* One experiences forgiving and being forgiven, with little to no reminders of past offenses.
* There is a sense of order to the relationship.
* One feels free to be who they are rather than
who one thinks they need to be for the other person.
* Feelings are more important than money and things.
* Personal growth and individuality are supported and encouraged.
* Intellectual, emotional, and physical independence is supported.

Thanks for listening.
I hope this helps.

LyndaLu :)

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Re: Healthy Boundaries

Post by LyndaLu » Sun Feb 02, 2014 5:56 pm

Some Factors in Boundaries in Relationships

Type of Boundary:

Mental and Emotional


Beliefs
Thoughts and ideas
Feelings
Decisions
Choices
Unfinished Business
Projections
Energy
Needs
Alone Time
Intuitions
Individual Differences
Love
Interests
Relationships
Confidences
Secrets
Participation
Roles
Rules

L.L. ;)

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