Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

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Iwillbebetter
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Re: Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

Post by Iwillbebetter » Wed May 23, 2012 5:46 pm

Lynda

That's awesome!!! I'm so proud of/for you!!! Church alone I think can bring you such wonderful feelings. Then the added bonus is when you start to make friends and things. I think the bible study group is a GREAT idea. A small group of people also that's just great and brunch after!! I'm glad to hear you are getting out there!!
"Only rainbows after rain, the sun will always come again, and it's a cirlce, circling around again it comes around again...."

keepsmilin
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Re: Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

Post by keepsmilin » Sun Jun 03, 2012 7:00 pm

Way to go!! That's such a great move-going to brunch, church and then a bible study. All of these experiences should teach you something. It is so good you're out and about and meeting new people and potentially new friends. Connecting with other humans is so important and much needed in a fulfilling life. I am very happy for you!! Please continue to update us!

As for me, I am back!! I took that break that I said I was going to-for the training of the new career- and now I am feeling good and in a routine and back to working two jobs and then of course, music on the side. It is my passion and I will always push forward with it. It's looking promising...gigs and recording sessions are to come. I have so many demos...now it's just the reall quality "radio friendly" single I am waiting on! :) Then, radio and Itunes. So, I can't complain and it feels good to be back. I am on session ten as of today!

Love you all!

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Re: Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

Post by keepsmilin » Sun Jun 03, 2012 7:03 pm

I have also been out and about with friends a lot more now, too, and that is so helpful, peaceful and wonderful! When bands come to my town to play a live show, I try to get some people out and about and it's soo nice to connect with musicians, friends and meet new people! Social anxiety has definitely drifted...I am feeling good about it. Now, for the driving out of town...I'll work on it! ;)

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Re: Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

Post by LyndaLu » Thu Jun 14, 2012 10:10 pm

I have been going back to church since April 29th and it is going well.
The ladies at the church have all been nice to me. I am still attending the church
service, attending the bible class and then going out to brunch with some of the
ladies after the bible class. I listen a lot during the lunches and I try not to
interrupt. I chime in every once in a while during the conversations. The folks
have not "interrogated" me or asked me a lot of questions, which I appreciate
because I am shy and introverted and I am going through a tough time in my
life right now. The people seem to accept me the way I am, who I am right now.
I hope to continue going to church. I really need the exposure to the spiritual part
as well as the exposure to the "people" part of each Sunday.
Lynda :)

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Re: Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

Post by keepsmilin » Sat Jun 16, 2012 6:18 pm

I am so happy you are continuing this-it sounds like fun and therefore, is so good for you.

I am so happy also, that they are accepting you. Feeling accepted when you're up OR down is so important in life. I am learning that, too. Way to go!! Keep it up! Use your skills and practise at these events :)

KeepSmilin

LyndaLu
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Re: Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

Post by LyndaLu » Mon Jun 18, 2012 5:02 pm

I will just have to keep taking it one day at a time.
That is all I can do right now.
Lynda

keepsmilin
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Re: Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

Post by keepsmilin » Tue Jun 19, 2012 1:36 pm

You got it. I forget to do that often.

One day at a time...

:)
Keepsmilin

LyndaLu
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Re: Realizing about friendships/social anxiety

Post by LyndaLu » Sat Feb 01, 2014 7:06 pm

Hi All:

My post here from April 18, 2012 was quite overwhelmingly depressing.
At that time I was already in the beginning stages of becoming almost totally isolated.
That isolation was not broken until October 2013.
I am no longer isolated and I am on the road to recovery.
I don't know how it happened, but I feel like I had one of those
"light bulb moments" back in October 2013.
My brain was finally clear enough to be receptive.
I could think. I could learn.
I wanted to learn. I wanted to be healthy.
I wanted to be alive. I had hope.

Here is something I read recently. It is one of the many tips for being happy.

INVEST IN RELATIONSHIPS

Surround yourself with happy people.
Being around people who are content buoys your own mood.
And by being happy yourself, you give something back to those around you.

Friends and family help you celebrate life's successes and support you in
difficult times. Although it's easy to take friends and family for granted,
these relationships need nurturing.

Build up your emotional account with kind words and actions.
Be careful and gracious with critique. Let people know that you
appreciate what they do for you or even just that you're glad they're part of your life.


LyndaLu :)

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