HOW do you stop worrying about what others think?
Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 7:33 pm
Hi
I've been applying the skills in this program for close to a year now, and I have grown so much. I now have so much insight to my thought processes and how I feel...it's almost unbelievable! I've learned so much about myself.
One thing I've learned is that I have a hard time with worrying about what others think. This goes into the people pleasing. Trying so hard to please everyone so that they don't think or say anything negative about me. I realized that I do/used to do that A LOT. And I never really realized it before.
I've also noticed that I'll sometimes listen to what others say and will hold their opinion over my own..Like their's is more important/better than mine and maybe I should change mine to match theirs because they must be right.
AND I've also noticed that I can have a bit of an inferiority complex, especially around certain ppl that I perceive as better than me.
I've been replacing a lot of these negative thoughts with positive ones, and have been able to feel a difference, but they still haunt me. And I sometimes feel like I run out of positive things to say..like I keep saying the same thing over and over again.
But right now I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to let go of worry for what others think? I know that I SHOULDN'T worry about what they think. But I don't know HOW to stop.
Thanks
I've been applying the skills in this program for close to a year now, and I have grown so much. I now have so much insight to my thought processes and how I feel...it's almost unbelievable! I've learned so much about myself.
One thing I've learned is that I have a hard time with worrying about what others think. This goes into the people pleasing. Trying so hard to please everyone so that they don't think or say anything negative about me. I realized that I do/used to do that A LOT. And I never really realized it before.
I've also noticed that I'll sometimes listen to what others say and will hold their opinion over my own..Like their's is more important/better than mine and maybe I should change mine to match theirs because they must be right.
AND I've also noticed that I can have a bit of an inferiority complex, especially around certain ppl that I perceive as better than me.
I've been replacing a lot of these negative thoughts with positive ones, and have been able to feel a difference, but they still haunt me. And I sometimes feel like I run out of positive things to say..like I keep saying the same thing over and over again.
But right now I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to let go of worry for what others think? I know that I SHOULDN'T worry about what they think. But I don't know HOW to stop.
Thanks