Posted: Fri May 28, 2010 6:20 pm
My aunt had a guy over to fix the lawn mower. The guy was rude right up front... he was yelling at my aunt and all. I didn't get involved at first because (aunt) she's a grown woman and she needs to stand up for herself. Then I went out to help him (lawnmower man) with some projects. He wasn't rude to me, because I told him right off, "If you get rude with me I am outta here." So he was actually pretty nice to me.
As soon as my aunt came back out he was rude to her again and again. I let it go for a while but finally I went out and said to him I didn't appreciate the way he was talking to her. She (aunt) told me she didn't need me to help her and actually got mad at me. I didn't cuss or get angry but he just didn't get it... here's the problem. Now I feel bad cos I got upset with the lawnmower man and she is upset with me for it. I guess I should have minded my own business but I hate seeing someone berated in front of me. Should I apologize to anyone here?
I am new to this assertive stuff and I have been a victim of abuse for many years. I do admit I tend to get overly defensive around rudeness and verbal abuse I am not quick to say anything but I can't just sit and take it anymore. How do I know if I go overboard?
As soon as my aunt came back out he was rude to her again and again. I let it go for a while but finally I went out and said to him I didn't appreciate the way he was talking to her. She (aunt) told me she didn't need me to help her and actually got mad at me. I didn't cuss or get angry but he just didn't get it... here's the problem. Now I feel bad cos I got upset with the lawnmower man and she is upset with me for it. I guess I should have minded my own business but I hate seeing someone berated in front of me. Should I apologize to anyone here?
I am new to this assertive stuff and I have been a victim of abuse for many years. I do admit I tend to get overly defensive around rudeness and verbal abuse I am not quick to say anything but I can't just sit and take it anymore. How do I know if I go overboard?