Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2007 6:01 am
I finished the program last spring. I have never been able to be assertive in my life and have been manipulated plenty because of it. I consider myself to be a newbie at this and got a chance yesterday to "work it". A client offered me a chance to make some extra money for her on Saturdays and once again, I lowered my fee. However, after working last Saturday for her, and travelling an hour there and back, I thought how ridiculous this was for the money I got paid. So, when I called her to confirm this Saturday, I mentioned that I would need a gas allowance and would have to at least make a certain $ figure to make it worth my while. Again, a discounted price but something is better than nothing. She flat out refused and it was like a slap in the face! This woman is extremely wealthy, too. We were becoming friends as well, but now I know a manipulator when I run into one. I stood my ground but boy was I shaking when I finished the phone call. I finally stood up for myself even if I did have to go around the bush to do it. It's not over because she wants me to "think about it" but I really am hoping she doesn't call again. Being assertive is tough!