Stress Center Peer Support

This morning I am a bit irritated and I am fighting it so I don't become angry. I am annoyed about an email i got from a friend. He writes politely at first and then starts attacking me and cursing about my "perfect life" that I "thought" i had. He gets really crappy and I'm paraphrasing for him because he is an idiot and what he wrote is very childish. At the end of his email he says, I hope I don't ever offend you. Well I'm sure he knows he offended me and just wants to be sarcastic at the end of the letter. I keep telling myself that he has issues, because it's obvious he does, that he is jealous. He never seems quite satisfied with his life as it is. I decided I'm never keeping in contact with him again because I don't need crappy people for friends. I know i need to quit saying friend. So I don't know why I'm still annoyed about the things he said because frankly, it doesn't mean squat to me. I guess I must be annoyed with myself for letting a guy like that be my friend for so long. I saw plenty signs long ago that he's not alright. I ignored it because he was funny and made laugh all the time. Oh well. live and learn.

can totally relate. i have family like that. I actually had to block a sister in law from my email account because she was so hostile towards me because I couldn't attend a pampered chef demonstration at her house! I had school that day and she lives an hour away so I declined. next thing you know she is swearing at me on the email. I have really had to distance myself, not only from her but from many other negative people in my life. I was surrounded, honestly. I didn't tell them that I'm done, but I think they are getting the message because I don't reach out to them anymore. If they call me, the conversations are brief, I've got the go, I'm busy right now, blah, blah, blah. You will feel so much better having those people at arms length because they can no longer affect you and THEY KNOW IT. You will meet plenty of others that will make you laugh and feel good without making you feel bad. You are on the right track. Remember you have a right to your anger, you can either be assertive and tell him how he makes you feel or just dissolve the anger and keep some distance.

Debbie