My relationship is my biggest and least anxiety causer!!
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hey lil nurse, I have a lot of the same jealousy problems. For me, they contribute to my anger more than anxiety but apparently they go hand in hand. Anyway..you have been in this relationship for 3 years. You should not have to feel insecure or jealous because he obviously cares for you a lot and it is a man's natural reaction to simply look at good looking women. That does not mean he is going to pick up and leave you. So just learn to think more like that. Honestly I should listen to my own advice haha, it is harder than it sounds but just try to be more confident in yourself and work hard on the program becuase it helps confidence too. Good luck and best wishes to you!!=]
Hi lil nurse.
It may be a natural reaction for a man to look at beautiful women, but it's also a natural reaction for women to look at handsome men. Does he glance or does his eyes linger on the women?A good man does things with tact. If his eyes linger on women, then maybe you should have a talk with him. We women look at men too, but we glance and that's it.
It may be a natural reaction for a man to look at beautiful women, but it's also a natural reaction for women to look at handsome men. Does he glance or does his eyes linger on the women?A good man does things with tact. If his eyes linger on women, then maybe you should have a talk with him. We women look at men too, but we glance and that's it.
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The title of "My relationship....." intrigued me to skip ahead to session 6 though I'm stuck in 3 & 4. I can take a little of what all of you have said and there I am 
It certainly isn't fun when we are feeling that way. I don't worry about my husband with other women but it's his hobby to hot rods. One thing my therapist shared with me is jealousy is the fear of being replaced....where in your life was that triggered that now you feel insecure and jealous? Mine goes back to my childhood that I've had to acknowledge, forgive and try to let go.
But I will have to agree we are VERY sentistive people. I get my feelings hurt easily and usually my husband can hurt them very quickly.
We have to love ourselves unconditionally before we can accept the love from our husbands/boyfriends.
Sometimes saying nothing is better than for the moment when your caught up in emotion. Try to journal first. Then share when you can in a less accusing way. Now if I could practice what I write
It certainly isn't fun when we are feeling that way. I don't worry about my husband with other women but it's his hobby to hot rods. One thing my therapist shared with me is jealousy is the fear of being replaced....where in your life was that triggered that now you feel insecure and jealous? Mine goes back to my childhood that I've had to acknowledge, forgive and try to let go. But I will have to agree we are VERY sentistive people. I get my feelings hurt easily and usually my husband can hurt them very quickly.
We have to love ourselves unconditionally before we can accept the love from our husbands/boyfriends.
Sometimes saying nothing is better than for the moment when your caught up in emotion. Try to journal first. Then share when you can in a less accusing way. Now if I could practice what I write
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I agree my relationship is my biggest problem right now too . My parents are very "old school" and I really never felt "love" between them but never saw them fight either .
I grew up not knowing how to fight .
As kids we were always hushed .. so I feel my opinion or feelings never mattered . I got pregnant my senior year - been married to this man for 14 years . I don't feel love or respect from him or that I have it for him either . yet I can't find the courage to leave . I always find reasons to talk myself out of it. I guess I never learned to trust my gut & now that I feel things aren't right I'm stuck .
I don't care to tell him anything - I am not atracted to him at all . He is the father of our 2 kids but isn't an "involved" father .
I tell myself that he isn't at strip clubs or into porn .. then I catch him watching porn on the internet . Is porn an issue for any one else or am I over-reacting ?
I grew up not knowing how to fight .
As kids we were always hushed .. so I feel my opinion or feelings never mattered . I got pregnant my senior year - been married to this man for 14 years . I don't feel love or respect from him or that I have it for him either . yet I can't find the courage to leave . I always find reasons to talk myself out of it. I guess I never learned to trust my gut & now that I feel things aren't right I'm stuck .
I don't care to tell him anything - I am not atracted to him at all . He is the father of our 2 kids but isn't an "involved" father .
I tell myself that he isn't at strip clubs or into porn .. then I catch him watching porn on the internet . Is porn an issue for any one else or am I over-reacting ?
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LynnG:
I'm sorry to hear you feel so miserable in your marriage. That is such a sad way to feel. I've been there many times. As far as you asking if your over reacting about your husband looking at porn. I WOULD THINK NOT. If it were my husband doing that I would feel very offended. I can not stand any type of strip clubs, pornography, magazines etc....
I feel it is very degarding to the female gender.
I wish you the best
I'm sorry to hear you feel so miserable in your marriage. That is such a sad way to feel. I've been there many times. As far as you asking if your over reacting about your husband looking at porn. I WOULD THINK NOT. If it were my husband doing that I would feel very offended. I can not stand any type of strip clubs, pornography, magazines etc....
I feel it is very degarding to the female gender.
I wish you the best
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