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Hello I need some advice on this ..

I'm up to lesson 7 in the program and I have definitely felt more aware of what's going on with me with my anxiety and depression and have been able to take some control. Lesson 6 and 7 seem to have brought out the most emotion in me so far, but the biggest issue is that I can't seem to rekindle any desire to do anything.. even the things that I love the most.. every time I attempt to do something that I like .. a voice seems to say "what's the use?" "why do it ?" "what's the reason for doing anything?" ... I cant seem to shake this. I know part of it stems back to my childhood and the fact that I was constantly looking for approval from my father to say that I did something right and I never got it. Now I'm an adult and I cant seem to do anything unless I get some kind of praise or signal that I made the right choice .. Lesson 6 and 7 seems to have shown me that I have a deep anger about this and I'm trying to work through it but how do I regain my desire, my excitement about my future and the things that I aspire to do???

Hi ReBorn,
I highly suggest that you get up each morning with an attitude of gratefulness!!! Look around you at the beautiful day that the Good Lord has blessed you with!!! Think about the many people WHOM He has blessed you to have in your life!!!

Thank HIM and Thank HIM some more!!! Thank HIM for your health, your family, friends, loved ones, food, clothing, shelter and for your finances, your home and all of your 5 senses!!! Continually "Praise HIM"

Just look around you and Praise HIM for every single thing!!! I guarantee you, that you will begin feeling much better very fast!!!

Think of your chores as blessings!!! You are able to get up and do them and that is such a great blessing in itself!!!

Just think of all of those who are in those nursing homes, who would love to walk in your shoes, just for one second!!!

Think of all of those who are hungry and starving and all of those who were in that major earthquake and COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!!!

Gratitude is soooooo important in your recovery!!! Think of each day as a new beginning...A fresh start!!!

Let go of the past, for it is dead!!! Live in your precious present moments and make the very most of them, for one day, you would give every thing you own just to get that one day back and it will be impossible!!!

Life is much to short to waste!!! God gives us every single moment of our lives and He wants us to make the most of them!!!

Savor every single moment of your life!!! Soak it in like a sponge!!! Learn how to love living your life through gratefulness for the ONE who died for us!!!

I pray that you do these things, because they really do work!!! I should know, since I do them daily and they sure do work for me!!!

I pray that God blesses you on your road to recovery!!!

BTW: Accept the things that you cannot change!!! Give the rest to God!!! God is soooooo good!!!

Hi Reborn,

I am sorry that you are suffering as you have. Ms. T Bones had some good observations. Depression is primarily caused by holding onto, and failing to let go of past events that are hurtful. Anxiety is primarily caused by our own mental projections of worst case scenarios. Anxiety triggers fear of the future and many times unrealistic projected outcomes. Fear is in anagram for: False Expectations Appearing Real.

In both cases, they only serve to rob and steal the joy of the moment you do have. The past is dead, and there isn't much you, anyone or any program can do about it. The future is not yet come, so all you have is now. If you believe in God, you know to trust God's living word to us, and should know that it is our life's handbook. However, most people either refuse to believe that or eventually, after trying every body else's shortcuts and counterfeit gospel's, arrive to see and understand that we need a savior and He gave us His word to provide answers to life's challenges.

What are we challenged to do? "...Seek first the Kingdom of God...and all these things (your needs) shall be added unto you..." (Mat. 6: 31-34) "...Seek ...the Lord while he may be found..." (Is. 55:6) "...Be ye transformed, by the renewing of your mind..." (Rom. 12:2) You're searching for answers, and the answer is coming to the forethought of your mind. Is it possible that if you get back into your prayer life, and study of God's word, our life's handbook, you will have your answers?

In my own life, a life that was full of disappointment and hardships that had me in a state of depression for most of my life, I came to that conclusion. My wife bought me this program and in less than 1 month and 2 sessions, I realized that my prayer life was severely lacking. So I drew nearer to God and He drew nearer to me. (James 4:8) God is able to save forever those that draw near to Him. (Heb. 7:25). I took the focus off myself, and regained the joy of being of help and service to others, and found that the "...joy of the Lord is my strength..." (Neh. 8:10) It all came together for me, when I realized that it is not "...by power or might, but by My Spirit says the Lord..." (Zec. 4:6) that you will see all your "...mountain be laid as a plain to your shouts of grace, grace to it..." (Zec. 4:7)

It is that moment, where we totally surrender and confess that we can't go any farther, and we need Him in our lives, that He reveals His great and mighty Spirit, and rushes in to our cry for help. That is how, I was able to recover and this is what I did then and continue to do every day. I vocally express my gratitude the moment I open my eyes. I sing praises to the Lord the moment I go off to begin my day. Here is a poem the Lord had me to share with people: Praise Him At The Start

I spend quality time with Him in prayer and study of His word, and ask Him to be my guide. If I encounter a problem during the course of the day, I clap, sing and shout praises to Him (Ezekiel 21:14) I picture my clapping, and singing a short 3 syllable phrase like: God is Great, Yah'-shu-ah, God-Loves-Me, I-Feel-Great, etc in a rhythmic cadence, as a sword to destroy the negative forces working in my mind to try to steal my joy. Joy and laughter are also things that cannot be withstood by these forces of darkness and despair.

Trust me it is a spiritual warfare, but praise God, he has given us the victory, be strong in the Lord and the power of His might by making Him your joy. (Eph. 6:10-17 and Neh. 8:10)

Finally, fellowship with people that are strong in the Lord, run from those that are living defeated lives, until you are strong enough to be of help to them. No one can help anyone if they have not been able to help themselves and without the word of truth; they labor in vain, for the blind cannot lead the blind least they both fall into a pit of destruction (Luke 6:39). Please read Is. 42:16.

You will find every citation used in this posting if you click on this link: Scripture Citations Found Here

If you are a Christian, or would like to learn more about Christian Fellowship that can make a difference and help you on your way to recovery; please contact Ms. T bones or me through a private message and we will be more than happy to help you.

I too have no desire or enthusiasm to do anything. I struggle everyday. I am up all night. I find that in the past, wounds heal themselves without even thinking about it, but sometimes when a deluge of negative events occur its harder to achieve a feeling of balance and harmony again. The mind can make you sick is what my Mom used to say...BOY, she was right!!!! Retraining the brain is what its all about. I find that my process is slow.....all I want to do is sleep. Yet, I do things because I have to.....having purpose in life is a biggie too. I dont have family or kids. I have one best friend who without him I would have dived into possible insanity and deeper despair. Having SOMEONE who relates to you is vital. We have to work on this together. We can do it. creamcheese

A true friend is someone who won't give up on you. God bless you and him.

Johnmac, thanks for your support....I am slowly picking myself up but I have my days...I have one good best friend who has never let me down in 27 years I know him. If you can find one person like this this is a miracle. I hope you have one or will find someone like this very soon. creamcheese