is there any hope?
Hi, I was happy all my life. I am 35 years old now and have suffered since the age of 21. One night when I was just about to fall asleep, whammo something hit me like a ton of bricks. Feelings of unbelievable fear and anxiety. I feel that I am the only one who feels this way, why can all these other people be happy and all I do is worry and fret. Am I going crazy?? Since that night I have never felt the same. I need to find some way to get out of this, my life is so empty, i want to be able to do the things i used to enjoy, but can't. I pray that I can get a hold on this for the sake of raising my beautiful innocent 4 year old angel
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Darkcloud..I am so sorry to hear about your suffering from fear and anxiety...I began having panic attacks when I was really young, and had them for 21 years of my life...I know how frightening and emotionally draining this can be...I can honestly tell you that I do not have a fear of panic attacks anymore; therefore, they just don't come around..I need to know if you have the program???? If so, please use it...If not, I will help you in any way I can...I don't want anyone to suffer as I did...God Bless...
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Hello darkcloud, please understand that nearly everyone on this forum is either going through or has already been through panic and anxiety quite similar to yours. Some have fully recovered by using the Combatting Stress and Depression Program program. It is the way out and your ticket to freedom. Usually by week 3 you are feeling a whole lot better and your confidence level is starting to increase. Please be patient with yourself and know that you are not alone and that you have friends here to help talk you through the panic. Also there is magic in writing so getting on this forum and hanging out with some positive upbeat people will allow you to interact more and help to keep you from getting so anxious. And no you are not going crazy, it is anxiety that is causing your symptoms and anxiety in it's simplest form is just cortisol and adrenaline coercing through your body. Once you get the thoughts under control the body symptoms causing the panic will subside as well.
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Hello Ms. T Bones, I do not have the program. I recently had to take a 12 week leave of absence from work and therefore do not have the means to obtain it. I am trying the 21 day free trial right now, I am trying so hard to find some way out of this, everyday is a constant struggle for me and all I think of all day long is why can't I be happy again, why do I feel so weird, I need to get some kind of relief from this it is tearing me apart. I just went back to work this week and I am struggling with it, constant worry, deppressive thoughts, thinking about the past when I was "sane" and happy. I go to work, come home, and just kind of sit and stew. Thanks for your kind words, and I will definitely continue to post and read on this forum.
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darkcloud,
When we think in the past and worry about the future we are unable to enjoy the here and now.
If you can just think of a mantra such as "Calm" or "Slow down" and repeat it to yourself over and over and over again until you allow no other thoughts to intrude and if they try to come in just say not now thoughts and repeat your mantra.
You will begin to feel calmer and this happens because you are slowing down the body symptoms that are reacting to the negative thoughts you are telling yourself every day 365 days a year.
Negative thinking is learned. It is a bad habit and it is also easy to change.
If you were not a negative thinker you would not have anxiety and most likely depression, you couldn't because it is your negative thinking that is causing the anxiety and most likely the anxiety that is causing the depression.
So by changing the way you think you are changing your past, your present and your future into something more realistic, more positive and more comforting.
This will in turn slow the adrenaline that is so much the culprit for anxiety. You may not feel the effects immediately but it will happen and usually within a few hours or a few days.
You will start to feel calmer and as you start to challenge your thoughts and replace them with something more positive, something you may say to a good friend or family member less and less adrenaline is released into your system and you begin a calmer way of reacting to your thoughts.
Our mind does not know nor does it really care what we tell it, it believes what you think whether it is true or not.
So replacing your negative thoughts with positive ones daily until you get really, really good at it is the key to overcoming both depression and anxiety.
This is the magic that this program is based upon. If you cannot purchase the program at this time that is okay, because by changing your thought process you are in fact changing how you feel. And changing how you feel changes everything.
Sounds simple I know but I promise you it works. This is a new way of life for you, a new way of thinking, and a much brighter future. You have come to the right place.
An example of a negative thought would be something like this.
"I can not do anything right." or "I am a terrible mother." for example.
The more realistic, more truthful replacement thoughts would be,
"I do a lot of things really great, a lot of people have asked for my help." "I am a great mother and I love my daughter very much, I am a very caring and loving parent who is concerned about her daughter and that's okay.
Do you see which thoughts empower you and make you feel worthy and which thoughts rob you of your self esteem? This is the key to overcoming anxiety.
Let us know how you are doing.
When we think in the past and worry about the future we are unable to enjoy the here and now.
If you can just think of a mantra such as "Calm" or "Slow down" and repeat it to yourself over and over and over again until you allow no other thoughts to intrude and if they try to come in just say not now thoughts and repeat your mantra.
You will begin to feel calmer and this happens because you are slowing down the body symptoms that are reacting to the negative thoughts you are telling yourself every day 365 days a year.
Negative thinking is learned. It is a bad habit and it is also easy to change.
If you were not a negative thinker you would not have anxiety and most likely depression, you couldn't because it is your negative thinking that is causing the anxiety and most likely the anxiety that is causing the depression.
So by changing the way you think you are changing your past, your present and your future into something more realistic, more positive and more comforting.
This will in turn slow the adrenaline that is so much the culprit for anxiety. You may not feel the effects immediately but it will happen and usually within a few hours or a few days.
You will start to feel calmer and as you start to challenge your thoughts and replace them with something more positive, something you may say to a good friend or family member less and less adrenaline is released into your system and you begin a calmer way of reacting to your thoughts.
Our mind does not know nor does it really care what we tell it, it believes what you think whether it is true or not.
So replacing your negative thoughts with positive ones daily until you get really, really good at it is the key to overcoming both depression and anxiety.
This is the magic that this program is based upon. If you cannot purchase the program at this time that is okay, because by changing your thought process you are in fact changing how you feel. And changing how you feel changes everything.
Sounds simple I know but I promise you it works. This is a new way of life for you, a new way of thinking, and a much brighter future. You have come to the right place.
An example of a negative thought would be something like this.
"I can not do anything right." or "I am a terrible mother." for example.
The more realistic, more truthful replacement thoughts would be,
"I do a lot of things really great, a lot of people have asked for my help." "I am a great mother and I love my daughter very much, I am a very caring and loving parent who is concerned about her daughter and that's okay.
Do you see which thoughts empower you and make you feel worthy and which thoughts rob you of your self esteem? This is the key to overcoming anxiety.
Let us know how you are doing.
I have been working on erasing the negative thoughts, but I just can't seem to shake them. I try to be happy, think positively, but then I will fall back into the negative cycle, and everything i am trying to accomplish feels hopeless. I try to go for walks, play with my daughter, talk with my girlfriend, but later on I just obsess with these negative thoughts. I feel so alone, like the only place im going to go is an institution. do you know of any symptoms of feeling "unreal" or "looking at yourself outside your own body" This is what hurt's the most, like i am totally alone with this illness, and I will have to live forever like this. Thanks for your input and look forward to more advice from anyone and everyone who could help.
Dear darkcloud, Yes, there is Hope! Almost everyone of us has most likely asked this question of ourselves at one time or another. The loving thoughts and suggestions given to you by Mrs. T Bones and "not" will be very useful if you will just be patient with yourself and put their advice into practice. Changing a negative pattern of thinking doesn't happen overnight, but it will and can happen! There is so much hope, really! Give yourself credit for coming here for help - that's a positive step you've taken. When you catch yourself with a negative thought, say "Stop!" and replace it with a more postive thought. I know that may sound too simple, but that has been helping me. Eventually it will become easier and later almost automatic! Treat yourself as kindly as you do your own little daughter. I'm sure you have patience with her as she learns something new. Have patience with yourself, please! And keep coming to the forums. I can't stay on any longer tonight and will be out of town all tomorrow, but believe me, I will be praying for you. I am a Christian and when someone touches my heart, I definitely pray for God to help them. He does hear and answer prayer. You can ask Him, too! Bless you!