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I am married to a wonderful man, but sometimes I feel like he is so comfortable with me he can say almost whatever he wants. The topic came up yesterday because he was watching a Syrian singer on YouTube and he said she was old like 60 years and I just said well she doesn't look like it, and he said see her neck. I said well she doesn't look 60, she looks like she is in her 30's or 40's. Than he said yes, but her face used to be fatter and showed me an old photo of her and said she was beautiful. Than he said Syrian women are even more beautiful than the women in his country he is originally from because they are lighter. I got upset and said "Excuse me? Why are you telling me this, there are some things you can keep to yourself. What does that make me if I am American and not Syrian or from his country." He said to not put myself in the middle of it, he didn't mean anything by it. I reminded him that conversations like this one can cause bad feelings.It just got on my nerves. He did apologize, but the hurt is still there. I know he would never cheat on me, and he does tell me I am beautiful, but I feel like I will never be regarded the same way he admires the beautiful Syrian women. How can I feel better? Once again, despite my new clean cut way of life, I feel like I am being subjected to the endless stream of beauty contests that are going on to determine who is the best. Sometimes, I hate being a woman.

That can ne hard. How to feel insecure. One I would say to remember he is a man and they are different in many ways. Men will always have a "prefect woman" image in their heads and we are not normally that.... from the sounds of ot he does love you and that ow what matters!!! There will always be someone prettier.... love who you are and ie will continue to love you also!!

I'm not sure where they come from sometimes. My husband does that too, like he is thinking out loud and sometimes they should keep things to themselves. I don't think they have trouble with sharing what they are thinking at the time and then ten minutes and they go on to something else. I sympathize. Sometimes you just have to shake your head. But he probably doesn't spend a lot of time thinking about it, probably something that just caught his attention. I have been married 22 years and still shake my head in confusion at where some things come from. But on the other hand it is a good sign that he is very comfortable sharing his thoughts like that with you. Sometimes I think my husband says certain things just to see if he will get a reaction, I don't know if that is true or not but sometimes it's the way it seems. But take care of yourself and remember all your great qualities.