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Hi, here I am to vent once again! Not sure where to start. I get so angry and frustrated with myself. I am totally bored with my life and very unhappy and yet I feel STUCK and not able to move on. I try to escape in sleep and take way too many pills just to try to put myself out. All escapism. There's lots to be done, apt. needs cleaning, dishes need washing, etc. etc. etc. AND I JUST DON'T do it! Paper work to be done which I keep putting off, I feel like throwing something right now out of pure frustration. I have never led a "conformist" type of life, always doing somewhat crazy things just to get by I think. I am certainly not a contented person, but the big problem is right now I CAN'T SEEM TO MOVE. It's like being stuck in quick-sand! I hate myself like this, now living alone, even finding it difficult to have a shower. WHAT CAN I DO to help myself?? PLEASE HELP! Any suggestions would be so welcome. Sorry my posts all seem to be so negative.
Joy

Joy I have been on this road you are o9n and stuck just like you are. There's only one way out and it's not an easy one but must be done to break this cycle your in and have been in for a long time now.

YOU MUST MAKE YOURSELF DO THIS....SORRY BUT IT"S THE ONLY WAY!!

Get into a nice warm shower/ tub which ever you choose. Then put something comfy and soothing on, do your hair, do a task you have been putting off and then just keep working at the neglected tasks one after the other and don't stop until you have completed them all. Of course it's late now but tomorrow is a brand new day so start it off by making yourself look great just for you..you are worthy of it. As you complete each task you will begin to feel self gratitude and self respect..it just happens.

I don't know what sessions you have completed or if you have stopped working the program but if you have stopped you need to get back to it and keep at it for the sake of yourself. It works and you really need the skills so you can stop living a life you so hate.

I wish there was a quick and easy fix but there just isn't. You have to really want to stop feeding yourself all these unhealthy thoughts and taking pills to sleep life away is not healthy or a fix for anything. Please stop hurting yourself and work on feeling like you really want to feel...happy, lighthearted and full of joy...not sadness.

It truly is heartbreaking to feel all the pain you are in and I just want you to feel better.
You are not alone, we are all here to help but you must help yourself.

((((((HUGS))))))) and well wishes to you.

Hi. Have you ever read "Refuse to Choose" by Barbara Sher? Check it out at amazon, see if you relate at all..

Lern to live in the moment. I used to go on walks and not allow mysef to think of anything but what I was seeing on the walk. This did help me get on the right track. This got me motavited.

I have found a herb that really works good for me to keep me calm, but be sharp minded, and energetic. Look it up on the internet yourself, and see what you think. Siberian Rhodiola Root. (Rhodiola Rosea)

Joy- Is it possible your psych could recommend group or one on one therapy for you? Your psych may just be doing medication management for you and maybe you need some talk and group therapy. It may help get you motivated and get you on the road to feeling like you are taking action on helping yourself get better. ???

I am fighting the same battle except for the pills to help sleep. I am able to sleep anytime.
But I am thinking even now how when the dishes are washed and the place is clean how much nicer it is to be around. Also one less worry to be concern about so I should just do it then it will be done. I have also made list of everything that could be done and try to scratch them off to get a sense of accomplishment for the day. The one thing I do not put on the list is the idea from Mary's post is going back into some sort of support group or one on oe therapy. I have thought about it but have not taken any action. There is something about having a supported person to talk to verbally rather than written is helpful.

I have also have told myself that I have to finish something before I am able to do or have something else. (Reward system) Like I have to clean up the kitchen before I go lay down for a nap. Then I will have one less worry and wake up and be refresh with also a clean kitchen.
We have to work hard to get out of our rut. I am thankful for this program that has given me the steps to take. The rut does not seem as deep as it use to be.

Remember I believe lesson 3 - Write down the negative thoughts and then rewrite them into a positive thought. I surprised myself recently where I heard a negative statement and then rewrite it and how I have a better attitude in general afterwards. I just thought of something I have to put on my list - find the words to that old Bing Cosby song - acsent the positive.

Take care,
Steve

I have been in depression for most of my life and all the advice is true. I know from expreience that forcing you to move is important. What I am not familiar with is using herbs. I have used most of the meds out there for depression and most of the time it took my energy and creativity away and all I wanted to do was sit and wish my day away. Does any one have more information on herbal replacement.

I have found a herb that really works good for me to keep me calm, but be sharp minded, and energetic. I also get a good night's sleep. This is a real good treatment for me. I have not gotten depressed at all since I started on it about a week ago. I have not gotten anoyed or angry. I have not felt any gult trip attemps from others. By no means have I felt dull minded or nervious. I feel perfectly normal.
. Look it up on the internet yourself, and see what you think. Siberian Rhodiola Root. (Rhodiola Rosea)

This is me, too. Does anyone else feel like their arms are gonna fall off from the exertion? I'm going to look up the Rhodiola Rosea.

Please someone help me get started. I've been in depression and anxiety for 15months. I am having a hard time being poisitive. I am so afraid. I've seen in this state of mind for 15 months. I'm retired due to my anxiety and sleepless . Helppppppppppppp