Stress Center Peer Support

So I'm a perfectionist. I guess it's better than the other names I call myself. Lesson 3 was a good experience for me. I must have listened to the Lesson 6/7 times. It was hard to face the fact that I have no self esteem, that my identity is based on the ones others give me. But I'm learning to look within for support, acceptance and worth and trust that I am in here somewhere. Baby steps.

I've lowered my expectations for Lesson 4 and for the program because my high expectations for how well it should work are merely causing me grief and worry. I hope I'm getting this right. I'm seeing sometimes its just a matter of how you speak to yourself that makes the difference...maybe all the difference.

Wish me luck on the Lesson 4.

I just started session 4 myself and I too am a perfectionist. Often times I expect waaaaay too much from myself and from everyone around me. I get so disappointed about silly things that should not matter; like if my husband does the laundry for me, I get frustrated because it is not done how I would have done it. I don't get mad at him because it is helpful, but i almost feel like I should have done it myself so I could have controlled the outcome a bit better. Silly isn't it? Oh, and when she talks about the christmas tree on the tape... Lets just say that I put the christmas tree up and decorate it myself because everyone in my family knows it has to be perfectly balanced. I work on it for days. LOL... I seriously got a kick out of listening to these other ladies talk about the same thing. Anyway, this session is going to be quite a challenge for me, more so than session 3, which i thought was pretty hard. Session 3 was so helpful though. I really did not realize that I was so negative at times.

Life is meant to be lived, not enjoyed. If you manage to enjoy it as you go, consider yourself blessed. Lower your expectations.