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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 10:43 am
by ~Noelle~
Does anyone give themselves a hard time when doing homework? I'm a college student and even when I work my tail off, I ALWAYS feel like I don't do the work good enough. Sometimes I read the material over and over again because I just feel like I didn't accomplish much. Then the what if thoughts come. Like, what if I fail? What if I don't get a good grade? Worse, what if they think I plagiarized? How can you find a middle ground? Thanks!
Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 1:21 pm
by derfy
Noelle:
I used to do that, feeling as if I needed to know the whole book!! I went to college at night while working during days and I firmly believe this is what triggered my panic attacks. I had to ease up as I was destroying myself.
I am a big "what if-fer" also and have gotten better over the years, but still need to work on this. Remember, mistakes are an opportunity for growth and learning. Nothing more. Don't worry so much about failing; if you do, so what. You try again and again. Use the energy to learn the material and when you have done so move on. Hope this helps
Tony74
Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 10:08 am
by Guest
Hi Noelle. I too am a student, going through a Phd (it's still not easy!). It sounds like you are still in the stage of taking classes. Here is something to put perspective on the fact that you feel like you never do enough homework. I just spent the weekend throwing away 90% of the papers and homework and readings that I had accumulated over the past 10 years (6 garbage bags full). Guess what? I never needed them again. I kept them, because, what if I forgot everything and needed to check my notes? Sure, I forgot stuff, but, in the end, it didn't matter.
I have every confidence that you are a good student. You are probably just very hard on yourself. That perfectionist tendency is really hard on us. Just remember, will this matter after I passed my test?