Is Anyone Starting Session 4?...Support

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katz
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Is Anyone Starting Session 4?...Support

Post by katz » Sat Mar 31, 2012 12:30 pm

Is anyone starting session 4? Lets talk/support each other.

I am still working (and will be working) on negative thoughts. I started tape 4 today. There are many good things in there.
I am very excited. So far I have been putting the lessons into practice and I finally left the house for a walk alone this week. No panic attack happened. But I got a rush of adrenalin from the excitement that I accomplished a goal.
The next day, I wasn't feeling to well, allergies, I think, and I started to get bummed that I didn't have the energy that I did the day before, but I used my positive thoughts and praised myself for doing a good job on the walk and that my fatigue would pass. I am glad I didn't let the negative thoughts bog down a positive accomplished goal!

Iwillbebetter
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Re: Is Anyone Starting Session 4?...Support

Post by Iwillbebetter » Sun Apr 01, 2012 8:03 am

although I'm no longer on 4 (what a great session) I would be happy to offer my support. I am on 8, should be moving to 9 shortly. I hadn't planned on taking so long for that session... but that's okay!
What do you know, I still work at the negative thoughts to, it's amazing how much we can think negatively without even realizing. I would have NEVER guessed me to be such a negative thinker, I was really shocked/blown away to realize that.
It's nice to see your excitement, as it is something to be excited about!! You are on your way to a new you!! I wish I could get that excitement back :) But excitment or not... I"m still doing it!! :)
Awesome job, not letting yourself get down at what you couldn't do, but focusing on what you did do!! :) :)
Keep doing what you are doing, as you're doing great!! :)
"Only rainbows after rain, the sun will always come again, and it's a cirlce, circling around again it comes around again...."

NeverQuit
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Re: Is Anyone Starting Session 4?...Support

Post by NeverQuit » Sun Apr 01, 2012 3:03 pm

That's great that you are improving and can see the improvements! I think that is so key, to congratulate ourselves for even the smallest things, as Lucinda says. I don't do that enough!!

I think your positive self-talk also ties into have realistic expectations for yourself - being able to set small goals and work toward those, rather than expecting yourself to be ready to run a marathon or be perfectly comfortable!

The sooner we realize that perfection is not attainable, the closer we are to complete recovery!!

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Re: Is Anyone Starting Session 4?...Support

Post by LyndaLu » Sun Apr 01, 2012 9:49 pm

dear katz: It sounds like you are headed in the right direction ! Good Job ! :D

When I start to list my accomplishments, no matter how small, I feel good about myself and my day.

Instead of bringing ourselves down about what we didn't do, we can think about all

of the things that we DID do. I really enjoyed Session Three and Session Four, as I could really

relate to both of the Sessions. I am such a negative thinker and I knew that before I started

the program. I also knew about the high expectations that I had about everything. Working

on the program has helped me see these things in myself and is helping me work on

acting on them in a postive way. I don't know what advice

I can offer you except for you to know that I know how you feel and that it sounds like you

are really on track with the program. :) There are things that I need to do this week and

after having a very tiring, sedentary weekend, I think I am ready to do them :?: Lynda

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Re: Is Anyone Starting Session 4?...Support

Post by Dixiesmom » Mon Apr 02, 2012 10:54 pm

Katz,
I started session 4 today. Congrats on your accomplishments. If you need any support, let me know - you can PM me. I think this is going to be a hard session for me - as was session 3. These two areas (negative thinking and high expectations) are probably my biggest downfalls. I will be struggling my way through them for some time. Best of luck! :D

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Re: Is Anyone Starting Session 4?...Support

Post by peony » Wed Apr 04, 2012 9:23 am

I am starting session 4. I spent 2 weeks on session 3 which I found to be very helpful. Especially the process of identifying my negative thoughts, questioning, restating, problem solving, as outlined on the little card. I found the process cuts the neg thought from festering. I can get caught up in some of my totally untrue thoughts and obsess on them for a long time. I was surprised how the process can cut the ruminations short! I noticed that sometimes something will happen or a certain thought will happen where there is a strong cluster of many neg thoughts together!

I decided to take a trip last week that I had been dreading. I decided that I would have a good time, and it turned out to be a wonderful trip. I know it was the program that made it enjoyable, and not a nightmare. Even though I didnt have time, I journaled every nite and wrote down a few of the many neg thoughts I had and "worked" them.

I am going on another trip tomorrow hopefully I can continue session 4 while away visiting my son. It's hard to have the time and space when you are not at home.

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Re: Is Anyone Starting Session 4?...Support

Post by LyndaLu » Fri Apr 06, 2012 9:51 pm

katz wrote:Is anyone starting session 4? Lets talk/support each other.

I am still working (and will be working) on negative thoughts. I started tape 4 today. There are many good things in there.
I am very excited. So far I have been putting the lessons into practice and I finally left the house for a walk alone this week. No panic attack happened. But I got a rush of adrenalin from the excitement that I accomplished a goal.
The next day, I wasn't feeling to well, allergies, I think, and I started to get bummed that I didn't have the energy that I did the day before, but I used my positive thoughts and praised myself for doing a good job on the walk and that my fatigue would pass. I am glad I didn't let the negative thoughts bog down a positive accomplished goal!
I did the same thing the other day. I never exercise but I just decided to go outside for a nice 15 minute walk.
I have access to a treadmill, but that is not the same as walking outside in the fresh air and the sunshine.
I think exercise just lifts the soul. God Bless and good job on your accomplishments !

Lynda

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