Problems with family members

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Nel01073
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Problems with family members

Post by Nel01073 » Sun Nov 20, 2011 3:25 pm

This has been going on for quite some time now. I have a sister I just cant get along with. We argue about stupid things and then I get the silent treatment for months in a row sometimes. When we are not mad at each other shes really nice and fun to be around but I am constantly worried about saying the wrong thing and offending her. It wasnt always this way and now my other sister is starting to do the same thing. I wish we could talk about the problems instead but Im afraid shell get offended because its happened before. I think shes dealing with her own issues but I wish it would stop. Please I need some advice :cry:

christieinez
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Re: Problems with family members

Post by christieinez » Mon Nov 21, 2011 9:13 pm

Maybe you should try and write a letter. I always have a hard time approaching people when I have issues with them and I hold them in. But we both know that this isn't good. At least writing a letter will help you to put your thoughts together and you can possible be more comfortable to approach her. Don't pressure yourself to talk to her. I think you will know when you are ready.

perspectivegirl
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Re: Problems with family members

Post by perspectivegirl » Tue Nov 22, 2011 3:21 am

I agree with christie, I always go for the letter method. Whenever I have a face to face conversation that's sort of heated I always forget what I'm going to say and the wrong things always come out. Writing a letter gets everything you want to say out and you can reread and edit it before they see it. :]

margaretp
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Re: Problems with family members

Post by margaretp » Tue Nov 22, 2011 9:25 am

Hi I fully agree by writing down your thoughts and explaning is to get that anxiety out of your system. Maybe they don't understand what you are going through. I have done the same thing and it just gives you some relief.
Good Luck :)
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    Nel01073
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    Re: Problems with family members

    Post by Nel01073 » Tue Nov 22, 2011 9:33 pm

    Thank you guys so much for your advice. I dont think my sister takes me seriously when I try to talk to her or she sees it as an attack. But I will definitely give the letter a try. I think shes fighting her own demons but Im really hurt. I just hope she understands and wont get mad at me. I really hope we focus on solving the problem instead of just arguing. Thank you. :|

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