A new way to look at anxiety
Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2011 10:43 pm
Hello, My name is William, I've had anxiety for the last 7 years. I started the program a while back and it worked, I was free, but I stopped doing them around tape 8 and it came back to bite me. My anxiety came back worse than ever, so i started over and did the program word for word, it started working again, I'm on lesson 4 and doing the workbooks. I wanted to share something that my therapist said and it really struck me and made a lot of sense. He said that I dont have anxiety. My anxiety is a by-product of control. I'm afraid of death after getting into a car accident and I was basically trying to be God and control when anything happens to me. Well the truth is I cant. He told me that I need to live as if it were my last day alive. That is a hard pill to swallow, but it works and slowly I stopped thinking of death so much and just started enjoying things more. He also told me that anybody trying to control the things I was trying to control would get anxious. An analogy is putting someone who knows nothing about planes in a cockpit and tell them the plane was about to crash, fix it. Well that would make ANYBODY feel like crap and anxious. And once you let go of trying to control everything it is such a relief. Its a weight off your shoulders. I'm not 100% yet but i can slowly feeling myself growing better. It really is slow and I know now that my bad habit will not get fixed with a magic pill or quick fix. It will take time and there will be ups and downs. Good luck everyone.
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