Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 3:39 pm
I had a hard time figuring out where exactly to put this as it can tie into a number of the lessons in the program but I believe self-talk is the best place for it...perhaps this thread can help some in order to change their thoughts surrounding depression.
I know and talk to many people virtually that are struggling with depression right now and i know a few that i've met in person and are willing to talk about it. I have this one friend right now (lets refer to him as matt), who has been on disability for 4 or 5 years now because of his depression, I don't know how long he's had depression. Anyways I was talking to a mutual friend and this person had told me a bit of what Matt had said in a group discussion with a few other people. He mentioned about one particular thing which actually lead to me wanting to create this thread.
Matt had told people that he had been going to bars/clubs alone and would constantly look to get hooked up. I've actually expected to get hooked up everytime i went to bars/clubs before too and it is so frustrating and well sad whenever that didn't happen and so i thought about it and really, that could be depression for anybody. How often does this really happen? I think this is why it's important to really work through your expectations.
What other things might fit into this category? Well I'm sure anybody really believing that it is necessary to do perfectly and then failing to succeed would be depressed or forcing yourself to live in a town or work in a job that you really hate would do it too. Forcing yourself to work when you are beyond exhausted and keeping yourself from relaxing even if your body wants it, that too can depress anybody (obviously to a certain extent of course it would depend on how long this goes on for and of course there is no all or nothing when it comes to depression. You can definately be a little depressed or majorly depressed). When it comes to shoulds...those are like rules and it can be like being in jail if you have soooo many of those as well. That could definately be depressing to anybody.
So what i suggest you take from this thread is the idea to question what it is your doing that is causing you the depression. Ask yourself, could this be something that would depress anybody?
Mike
I know and talk to many people virtually that are struggling with depression right now and i know a few that i've met in person and are willing to talk about it. I have this one friend right now (lets refer to him as matt), who has been on disability for 4 or 5 years now because of his depression, I don't know how long he's had depression. Anyways I was talking to a mutual friend and this person had told me a bit of what Matt had said in a group discussion with a few other people. He mentioned about one particular thing which actually lead to me wanting to create this thread.
Matt had told people that he had been going to bars/clubs alone and would constantly look to get hooked up. I've actually expected to get hooked up everytime i went to bars/clubs before too and it is so frustrating and well sad whenever that didn't happen and so i thought about it and really, that could be depression for anybody. How often does this really happen? I think this is why it's important to really work through your expectations.
What other things might fit into this category? Well I'm sure anybody really believing that it is necessary to do perfectly and then failing to succeed would be depressed or forcing yourself to live in a town or work in a job that you really hate would do it too. Forcing yourself to work when you are beyond exhausted and keeping yourself from relaxing even if your body wants it, that too can depress anybody (obviously to a certain extent of course it would depend on how long this goes on for and of course there is no all or nothing when it comes to depression. You can definately be a little depressed or majorly depressed). When it comes to shoulds...those are like rules and it can be like being in jail if you have soooo many of those as well. That could definately be depressing to anybody.
So what i suggest you take from this thread is the idea to question what it is your doing that is causing you the depression. Ask yourself, could this be something that would depress anybody?
Mike