Stress Center Peer Support

I'm currently on Session 8 of the program but have been having such a hard time with negative self talk. I can't count how many negative things I have said to myself today. And I can't seem to find any believable positives to counteract them. I am extremlly down on my weight. I feel like my sweet children don't deserve a mother like me who is constantly beating herself up. One of my biggest fears is that my children will pick up on it and the cycle will start for them. I have never felt good enough...even when I was a child. My dad always talked about "fat" people and so I have always been self conscience about my weight. I now am 50 lbs over weight...more than I weighed when I gave birth to both my children. I'm just so lost. I was doing really well. I am now completely mediaction free and am starting to wonder if I should have stayed on them...even though I hated being on them. I'm probably just rambling now but I'm hoping to find some suggestions somewhere....

Mindi

Hi Mindi, I am brand new here and only on session 1, but I signed up here and read your comments. Have you tried exercise (yoga) is very beneficial to help you focus and relax. It also gives you flexibility. Pilates is another wonderful exercise to tone up as you lose and it does work. I do it 3 times a week and the results are astonishing. You will have more energy which will produce a happier mind......Try it and let me know.

I think what you have to remember is if you do not like something about yourself, you can change it. In your case your weight.

Why not switch to a low fat diet. And go for a 30 minute walk every day, and you will see the weight drop off.

Remember even if you exercise and continue to eat a high fat diet, you will never lose the weight. Eat right and exercise is the best way forward to lose the pounds.

Once you begin to lose weight you will begin to feel much better about yourself.

YES YOU CAN! Tell yourself that. Don't u ever give up! I can't even tell u how extreme my fears are sometimes that make me toss my lunch, but i keep trying. I never give up, so u shouldn't either. Especially about your weight. You can do something about it. Whenever u start thinking about your weight, just yell STOP!!!!!!!! to yourself and picture a bright red stop sign like Lucinda says. Then replace it with something good like, "I can lose this weight with time" or, "Look at all these good things in my life........" like that! You could also picture yourself walking on a park trail on a sunny day and as the weight u desire. I know fear and it can be very scary dealing with such thoughts that i have. I better not even tell how scary they are! Well, anyway get better soon! I know u will! Just like me!

Hi Mindi:
You sound like me. I am forty pounds over weight, more than I weighed after I had my two kids. I started walking, but didn't stick with it and eating well is not something that I have had success with. I think you and I just need to get up and do it. What is thirty minutes a day to walk.....nothing in the scope of the day. And to eat healthy is just making the right choices. I always wish I could just lose some to get me going and encouraged. How about you and I make a pact this week to each walk every other day for 30 minutes and to just make wise choices when we eat. You ready for this. We can stay intouch to cheer each other on. Let's just do it. That's why we come to this site to encourage and support each other.
Cris