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Hey, everybody. So I'm noticing in myself that one of my main negative thinking patterns is that of not having faith in things happening. This goes anywhere from reaching a quota at work to getting myself to a state where I have peace of mind and I'm not a space cadet. There has been times where I have overcome this in the past and I've been trying to do the same exact things I did in the past...the only thing is, I'm in a diffrent place right now in my life and in diffrent situations. I remember Lucinda saying in one of the lesson cd's that people say...As soon as my anxiety and depression goes away then I'll be able to do (fill in the blank). The way I tend to do it is, I say...as soon as I can get myself to nap for a few hours on a consistent basis then I'll feel better or as soon as I quit the job that I'm at....So my question for everybody is...What is it you do when you get this kind of thinking? How does it make you feel?


Mike

That kind of thinking makes me feel inadequate in some kind of way, and I don't like feeling like that. When I start thinking like that, I'll just remind myself to stay in the "right now". Im fine, right now, regardless of what I want to change.

I'm not sure if I'm answering the question correctly.

deedee00

There isn't a right or wrong way to answer this...well ok maybe if you answered the question with numbers or symbols without any meaning but I'm glad you worded it the way you did. After reading what you wrote, I'm realizing that when I am being judgemental with my characteristics or my ability to do things, I tend to put myself in the past and then convince myself that past=future and it really isn't that true. I guess one thing I could do whenever this happens is ask myself, am I really that bad at what i'm doing right now? Does the universe or the higher power not want me to succeed that much or is this a false thought?

Even though i've been at this new job for almost 2 months now, I'm still constantly in fear that the other person is judging me and might act on that thought. But I guess if I can accept that i'm struggling with anxiety right now and I can accept how I've acquired the personal characteristics and anxiety symptoms then I can take the ammunition away from someone who might try to hurt me. Thanks for helping me get onto this more positive chain of thoughts.


Mike

Hi Ninja.

Whether we know it or not, everybody hAs got some problem going on. When people out there are trying to hurt you, it's only because they're afraid of something good you have inside of you, that they see, and is intimidated by. You have something they wish they had.

I have heard this theory before in the past but is it really the case all of the time? I'm sorry i'm just having a bit of a hard time accepting this....maybe an example?


Mike

I do think it's the case when people go out of their way to hurt you for NO reason. People are attracted to qualities that they don't have. That's where the saying, opposites attract, comes from. When some people see in you qualities that they admire and desire, they sometimes become jealous, and jealous people are not nice.

We are not born mean. there is always a reason why people are mean to you.

That's very true thank you.


Mike