My son was killed by a drunk driver; feeling depressed.
Posted: Wed May 02, 2012 1:22 am
Hello,
I am a parent of four wonderful sons. I was also engaged to be married to a wonderful man I was with for 6 1/2 yrs. And two years ago my life was turned upside down!! On Oct. 27th, 2009 my fiance passed away and it was very devastating for me to go through losing him because we had a 3 yr. old son together. (Only 4 mo. later) Then on Feb. 28, 2010 my oldest son was killed in a car accident. They both lived with me, so my house really seemed empty without them. Well approx. 8 mo. ago the police picked up the girl that killed my son for vehicular manslaughter and they also picked up his best friend that was driving the car my son was in.
On Friday April 28, 2012 the girl that killed my son was sentenced to 12 months in jail, but out of those 12 months she only did 38 days in jail. Then she was put on house arrest for the remainder of time until she was sentenced. So basically she was doing her time from the convenience of her own home. And Friday they handcuffed her and she went to jail to do the remaining 2 months she has left, but I got notified by the sheriff's department that she was released from custody on Monday, so yeah basically she did 1 more day in jail. She also got 79 days off for good behavior. So she did a total 38 days in jail plus friday, saturday and sunday 3 more days and the rest of the two months she will be doing community service. And my son's best friend got 3 yrs in prison. So unfair!!!
I did this program in 2004 when I was depressed really bad from spousal abuse and now it seems to be starting all over again.
I just don't understand why so many bad things keep happening in my life that I have no control over. I tried to get justice for my sons death, but the judge favored the girl that was drunk & driving between 90-100 mph that ripped my son's best friend's car in half. My son died instantly due to head trauma. I have a counselor and her son was murdered approx. 2 mo. before mine and she's doing fine with it. But i am so sensitive and i'm finding it to be a lot more difficult to get over it. I am starting my program all over again. I had it put away for 6 yrs. and now I had to bring out my program and re-do it!
I really hope this program helps me the way it did the first time.
I recently got married to a good man. We have been married for 10 months now. Well 2 months ago he quit his job and we are living off of our income tax money. Which we were supposed to use to fix my teeth. My two top front teeth started turning black. And I wanted them fixed so I could go back to work. I work with the public as a receptionist so it's kind of important to not have my teeth black when i smile. Even though smiling is not something i do very often nowadays.
Losing a son is the most unbearable thing to go through. I never thought my children would die before me. One of my sons was also shot in the chest walking home from his girlfriends house. He lost a third of his lung. He's okay now.
I find raising my 5 yr old son something that keeps my mind occupied when I have to do things for him. But after he's all taken care of and I get alone with my thoughts I begin to cry.
I don't know what my new husband thinks about me crying so much and we're pretty much still newlyweds. If anyone one from this forum have any words of advice for me please let me know.
It's just hard dealing with things that come my way. My son that died had a fiance and she was pregnant when he passed away. Well she told me it was time for her to move on cause my son was dead and he's not coming back and took my son's daughter with her and she got married and her and her new husband say they want nothing to do with me and won't allow me to see my son's baby.
She moved out and that was hard for me because I loved her and my sons daughter so much. I felt like he left part of himself behind for me to love and she took her away!
I quit my job and I want to look for work but I have a complex about my teeth. Just sort of stuck in a rut and don't really know what to do.
Dee04
I am a parent of four wonderful sons. I was also engaged to be married to a wonderful man I was with for 6 1/2 yrs. And two years ago my life was turned upside down!! On Oct. 27th, 2009 my fiance passed away and it was very devastating for me to go through losing him because we had a 3 yr. old son together. (Only 4 mo. later) Then on Feb. 28, 2010 my oldest son was killed in a car accident. They both lived with me, so my house really seemed empty without them. Well approx. 8 mo. ago the police picked up the girl that killed my son for vehicular manslaughter and they also picked up his best friend that was driving the car my son was in.
On Friday April 28, 2012 the girl that killed my son was sentenced to 12 months in jail, but out of those 12 months she only did 38 days in jail. Then she was put on house arrest for the remainder of time until she was sentenced. So basically she was doing her time from the convenience of her own home. And Friday they handcuffed her and she went to jail to do the remaining 2 months she has left, but I got notified by the sheriff's department that she was released from custody on Monday, so yeah basically she did 1 more day in jail. She also got 79 days off for good behavior. So she did a total 38 days in jail plus friday, saturday and sunday 3 more days and the rest of the two months she will be doing community service. And my son's best friend got 3 yrs in prison. So unfair!!!
I did this program in 2004 when I was depressed really bad from spousal abuse and now it seems to be starting all over again.
I just don't understand why so many bad things keep happening in my life that I have no control over. I tried to get justice for my sons death, but the judge favored the girl that was drunk & driving between 90-100 mph that ripped my son's best friend's car in half. My son died instantly due to head trauma. I have a counselor and her son was murdered approx. 2 mo. before mine and she's doing fine with it. But i am so sensitive and i'm finding it to be a lot more difficult to get over it. I am starting my program all over again. I had it put away for 6 yrs. and now I had to bring out my program and re-do it!
I really hope this program helps me the way it did the first time.
I recently got married to a good man. We have been married for 10 months now. Well 2 months ago he quit his job and we are living off of our income tax money. Which we were supposed to use to fix my teeth. My two top front teeth started turning black. And I wanted them fixed so I could go back to work. I work with the public as a receptionist so it's kind of important to not have my teeth black when i smile. Even though smiling is not something i do very often nowadays.
Losing a son is the most unbearable thing to go through. I never thought my children would die before me. One of my sons was also shot in the chest walking home from his girlfriends house. He lost a third of his lung. He's okay now.
I find raising my 5 yr old son something that keeps my mind occupied when I have to do things for him. But after he's all taken care of and I get alone with my thoughts I begin to cry.
I don't know what my new husband thinks about me crying so much and we're pretty much still newlyweds. If anyone one from this forum have any words of advice for me please let me know.
It's just hard dealing with things that come my way. My son that died had a fiance and she was pregnant when he passed away. Well she told me it was time for her to move on cause my son was dead and he's not coming back and took my son's daughter with her and she got married and her and her new husband say they want nothing to do with me and won't allow me to see my son's baby.
She moved out and that was hard for me because I loved her and my sons daughter so much. I felt like he left part of himself behind for me to love and she took her away!
I quit my job and I want to look for work but I have a complex about my teeth. Just sort of stuck in a rut and don't really know what to do.
Dee04