Re: Using my kids
Posted: Fri Dec 16, 2011 1:20 pm
I'm sorry to hear that you've already tried with no response!! Yes you are right, now it's time to realize accept, first and foremost YOU did NOTHING wrong!!! You made all attempts possible, don't let him punish you anymore, let him be the only one to be punished by this. I can't imagine it's not affecting him in somehow. He may not realize it yet, but sooner or later it will hit him like a ton of brick!!
Yes I think you've got it I'm sure the graduation is bringing on more anxiety. Like you said she'll be moving on. As hard as it is, try to see it more as excitement. She did it, she made it (for kids today that's not always so easy) She'll be able to make her start with solid ground. With every ending comes a new beginning. Be proud. Change can be hard, but it can be good also!!
I remind myself of that OFTEN. Past is gone, Who knows what lies tomorrow, all we have is NOW!!!! I to have trouble with the notebook thing. I saw from a post though that it's more about being able to find the negative statements and learning to counter act them. So although as I can't just walk around and write EVERY thought down. When I have a few minutes here and there I will write a few I recall. If I didn't have time during the day, I will write the ones I remember at the end of the day. Just learning to recognize them, and counter them or defuse/debunk them....
Funny I had that same lightbulb moment just last night. Deep down I am still like that child. Wanting someone to accept me and tell me I'm ok. Etc... It's really time for us to start "nurturing that child and helping them to grow and flurish!!"
I will let you know how things go. I'm sure they will be fine. Of course I have spent a little bit of the day thinking of how to get out of it. Instead of feeding it or dwelling I kept busy. Cleaned out the closet upstairs!! Been wanting to do that for a long time now anyway, just never could pull out the motivation to do it. That's something else I've noticed, how much more I can do. I don't wake up and just want to sit around all day. I actually want to do things.
Hope your day is well also. Talk to you later
Yes I think you've got it I'm sure the graduation is bringing on more anxiety. Like you said she'll be moving on. As hard as it is, try to see it more as excitement. She did it, she made it (for kids today that's not always so easy) She'll be able to make her start with solid ground. With every ending comes a new beginning. Be proud. Change can be hard, but it can be good also!!
I remind myself of that OFTEN. Past is gone, Who knows what lies tomorrow, all we have is NOW!!!! I to have trouble with the notebook thing. I saw from a post though that it's more about being able to find the negative statements and learning to counter act them. So although as I can't just walk around and write EVERY thought down. When I have a few minutes here and there I will write a few I recall. If I didn't have time during the day, I will write the ones I remember at the end of the day. Just learning to recognize them, and counter them or defuse/debunk them....
Funny I had that same lightbulb moment just last night. Deep down I am still like that child. Wanting someone to accept me and tell me I'm ok. Etc... It's really time for us to start "nurturing that child and helping them to grow and flurish!!"
I will let you know how things go. I'm sure they will be fine. Of course I have spent a little bit of the day thinking of how to get out of it. Instead of feeding it or dwelling I kept busy. Cleaned out the closet upstairs!! Been wanting to do that for a long time now anyway, just never could pull out the motivation to do it. That's something else I've noticed, how much more I can do. I don't wake up and just want to sit around all day. I actually want to do things.
Hope your day is well also. Talk to you later