taking it out on my kids HELP!
Posted: Wed May 18, 2011 11:11 pm
I am a single mom of an A.D.D. 5 yr old girl who's biggest challenge is listening to anything spoken to her and a very spirited/stubborn 2 yr old boy. Before I began this program I had been reading books and working on parenting without screaming or spanking. I have notes up all over my house reminding me things like " 1 mean name can erase 100 hugs" "pushing boundaries is a part of toddlers growth...it's natural and should be expected" i even have one that says "put them in their rooms and take a time-out outside mommy!!" ... and these were actually helping! I was doing a lot better about not yelling and threatening all day, BUT then I started this program and all my progress with my kids has evaporated... I really think I'm yelling more now than ever before, and I have been so frustrated with my daughter's inability to listen and follow simple directions that I actually screamed at her for being stupid yesterday (GASP!!)! I felt soooo bad after those words came raging out of me, and I did go to her room once her and I both quit crying to apologize to her, but I still feel rotten!!
It sure seems that the more I try to work on my issues the more my kids suffer from it... is anyone else having MORE anger issues since starting this program?!?!?! I am actually on session 4 now, but I'm still plugging away at session 3 as well, because the more I am aware of my negative thoughts the more down on myself I get! I am doing well with sweet talking to myself about my actual anxiety, but I am struggling to turn negative to positive with my kids and my parenting!!! grhhhhhh!!! thanx for listening, it's nice to have people to share with!!
It sure seems that the more I try to work on my issues the more my kids suffer from it... is anyone else having MORE anger issues since starting this program?!?!?! I am actually on session 4 now, but I'm still plugging away at session 3 as well, because the more I am aware of my negative thoughts the more down on myself I get! I am doing well with sweet talking to myself about my actual anxiety, but I am struggling to turn negative to positive with my kids and my parenting!!! grhhhhhh!!! thanx for listening, it's nice to have people to share with!!