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My 2 year old daughter seems to have the same personality as I do. When she gets in trouble I can see her wheels turning in her mind thinking, "Why me?" I know when I was a child when I would get in trouble I would always ask myself, "Why me?" or "Why did I have to go and do that to ruin my day?" When I look at her it just seems like she is thinking the same things. My 3 year old daughter doesn't seem to do that. My 2 year old also doesn't like to be in crowds or around new people. She is getting better but you can tell she isn't comfortable with it. Again my 3 year old is totally opposite. So is it possable for my 2 year old to already have anxity? If so how do I bring the skills I have learned down to her level?

Mindi

My 2 year old seems to have some social anxiety. But I always have too. He also seems to be having bad dreams the make him wake up anxious. I too think he has some anxiety like me. But I always try to reassure him that he is safe and to also be considerate of his feelings. If we are in a crowd I give him extra closeness and try to distract him if he seems to be upset.

I think u should just not bring it to attention and just tell your 2-year-old it will get better or something else positive.

I think some anxiety is the normal process for most 2 year old. They are growing, developing into little people and starting to have minds of their own, but yet still need us and rely on us. New things and adventures can be scary. I think it is all a part of growing up.

It is highly unlikely that a 2 year old has anxiety. However, it is likely that they are sensing something in your life and are modeling your behavior. Please do not lay that diagnosis on your daughter. Although children are beginning to develop their personality, they are still relying heavily on "mocking" behavior they see from the people they love. Be very careful not to show your struggles to your children. If you are experiencing high anxiety when around your children, especially at this age, do not let them feel your anguish...fake it if need be.

I'm sorry for your anxiety and I can absolutely identify with it. However, I encourage yo to protect people around you as they do not understand it. Calmly explain to them and then ask for their support and prayer. Try not to burden others (children included). I've been there and done that...it doesn't work.

Please don't take this reply as offensive as I don't intend it to be. I will pray for victory for you and a happy and peaceful life for your daughter. God loves you.